Tuesday, 7 August 2012

Life aint simple!

I saw this story earlier from pinknews and wanted to comment but restrained myself until now :

"A gay man has published a letter sent to him by his father to disown him after he came out.
Published on social news website Reddit, the user who published the letter described his father’s reaction to the news his son was gay.
He wrote: “In August of 2007, I finally built up the courage to tell my father I was gay. The moment I said it, the phone got quiet and he got off the phone after a few “Okay”s. I decided to give him time to process the news. About a week later, and not long before my birthday, I received the following letter.”
The letter reads:
“James: This is a difficult but necessary letter to write. I hope your telephone call was not to receive my blessing for the degrading of your lifestyle. I have fond memories of our times together, but that is all in the past.
Don’t expect any further conversations with me. No communications at all. I will not come to visit, nor do I want you in my house.
You’ve made your choice though wrong it may be. God did not intend for this unnatural lifestyle.
If you choose not to attend my funeral, my friends and family will understand.
Have a good birthday and good life. No present exchanges will be accepted.
Goodbye, Dad.”
The user said it was “zealotry” from Bryan Fisher, of the American Family Association, Maggie Gallagher, former president of the National Organization for Marriage, and Dan Cathy of Chick-fil-A which negatively affected “everyday people”.
He went on: “I’ve never done drugs, was an excellent student, an obedient child (far less trouble than many of my classmates), didn’t drink until I was 22 because it terrified me, and have had just 1 speeding ticket in my life.
“Yet I am still seemingly deserving of this terrible act of hate and cowardice that one person can place on another. 5 years on and I am still doing fine, though this letter saunters into my mind every once in a while. When it does, I say without hesitation: Fuck you, Dad.”

I have copy and pasted the whole piece.

But this is not an abnormal.

After my parents had finish beating the hell out of me and abusing me sexually  and i had escaped the frying pan for the fire i finally got my life semi in order. i had sorted out my issues and settled and learnt to love my self for me.

My dad and mum were horrified when i told them i was homosexual, i was banished (this was after years of bridge building of them abusing me) out of the fold. Me? i wasn't bothered, i figured that i had survived and learnt more by being away from them than being abused by them.

For a few years my mother and father didnt speak to me ( tho they were not on my *must call* list either), members of my family my age ( or there abouts) were quite supportive ( behind the curtains ) and tried when they were allowed to argue my corner. The problem did come when i did bring a boyfriend to parents and parents behaved then he beat me up later (the boyfriend).

My mum does accept me and does do her best to convince my dad to accept me for me, think he is slowly coming round.

I know some will say * why bother, they beat you and abused you* , and i cant disagree with that, but i ask you all this, try living your life without a family, without the love.

Maybe i am a glutton for punishment....


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